Another Two States Part - 21

            Love,the most sought word among people and yet the most doubtful theory, yet to be proved ! What can one say about love? Every time one encounters it, new theories, new laws and new observations are made. It is totally a new feeling and a new experience every time.And it just doesn't have a rule book ,describing the methods to be followed!

          Similar is the case with marriage. Love may lead to marriage or marriage may lead to love,  but eventually the final destination is love only. Marriage is not only union of two people but it's the bond that binds two souls for life, promising to take care of each other in all the ups and down's of life, supporting each other through the thin and thick of life. It's not simply an event, bringing two people close, but a ceremony marking the union of two families together. Marriage is not only a certificate, granting two people to lead a life together, but a bond to bind them in a happy relation forever.



    Namita was from north and Samarth, from south.
The first concern of a bride's parents is, whether their daughter would be able to adjust among the new customs of the bride's family or not, but here she had to adjust in a totally different tradition of the south. The second concern is, whether the guy would be able to give their daughter a happy, well settled life or not, and here the guy was still to establish himself ,then only he can promise anything to Namita's parents. The next big area of concern is, the approval of the groom's family from the bride's family and vice-versa, and here this thing was certainly going to create an issue, at both the sides.

        They both made a very understanding couple and doubtlessly,their hearts going together, as one! But they both wanted to celebrate their love with the blessings of their elders, rather than just eloping away, leaving behind parents,crying in pain! But they knew, this was not an easy task. A girl in the north Indian tradition is expected to hold onto its character,morality, integrity and wait for her parents to find the groom for her. She is expected to learn all the various arts of handling home from her mother, hold her beauty and cultivate all the necessary qualities of a homemaker, to be a good bahu (sister-in-law/bride).

          Introducing her or him wasn't what his or her parents would be expecting. That too, that the guy wasn't settled yet and Namita had many secretive things going on in her life. Samarth was a complete stranger to her and so was she to him. Yet being together for some time, hinted that they were in love. But being in love just doesn't solves the problem. To get married, both needed firm grounds to introduce each other at home. Grounds with firm reasons, that the choice they are making is safe enough with no scope of future hurdles, to  be blamed later for marrying someone from totally a different tradition.

      The new age children knew, north south hardly made a difference between them but the grown ups

 weren't likely to get this their way. Traditions, customs, language, environment and many more things would be totally new for her as well as for him, they knew Love would make them compatible with all such things. You can treat somebody, the way you want but you just cannot stop your heart from loving someone on these grounds. But the fear of hurting their parents, was the biggest reason, they both were being very careful with each and every step towards their future.

      The questions in-front of them were endless! They speak different language, come from different parts of the same nation with different traditions and customs, didn't know the compatibility of their families! Really did they love each other to the extent that they were willing to change their whole life for the other? Will it be worth of all the toil , they would do to make it happen? Will love be able to conquer all the wars of differences between them? And,Would Namita's family accept Samarth or would Samarth's family allow their son to marry a north Indian girl? Would they make a happy couple? Will they be able to sort out all the complexities of their life? What will happen? Will Namita and Samarth really make, Another Two States?